2 Things I Do To Combat Pregnancy Anxieties
As the weeks dwindle down (can you believe only 10 more weeks until this baby girl arrives?) I am taking advantage of date nights and girl’s night (P.S almost none of my clothes fit me anymore, it feels like I’m wearing the same outfits weekly at this point…).
It is isolating that first year as a mom to a newborn because there are plenty of invites to attend parties, dinners, or events but your baby needs you constantly (especially when you’re breastfeeding).
I’m also in uncharted territory – I’ve enjoyed giving birth to October babies because the following months that I needed to take to re-adjust back to the 24/7 needs of a newborn – it’s usually freezing outside (at least in Edmonton) and it did not feel like I was missing out on much.
I can feel my anxieties and worries start to build as the due date draws closer (having 3 kids under 4, labour, postpartum healing, the usual pregnancy worries), but when I feel that tightness in my chest or my jaw or my shoulders from carrying around those anxieties all day, I remember to pray and read my bible.
During my second pregnancy, I book marked my favourite verses for anxiety, and I continued to read them after giving birth. My anxiety mixed with the flood of postpartum hormones had me in tears the first week after having my babies but I also find crying as an excellent stress reliever.
So I would read these bible verses and pray (for strength, courage, direction, health for my baby and myself, and giving thanks for the beautiful baby He knit inside me for the past 40 weeks) and doing this helped remind me I needed to trust and lean on God:
“The Lord is my rock, my fortress and my deliverer; my God is my rock, in whom I take refuge, my shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold.” – Psalm 18:17
The Lord gives strength to his people; the Lord blesses his people with peace.” – Psalm 29:11
“From the ends of the earth I call to you, I call as my heart grows faint; lead me to the rock that is higher than I.” – Psalm 61:2
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.” – Proverbs 2:21
“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand… For I am the Lord your God who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you.” – Isaiah 41:10,13
“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” – Jeremiah 29:19
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” – Matthew 12:1
“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.” – John 15:12
He know you by name, He knows the struggles you face, but He wants to hear it from you.
I often forget that I don’t need to face my problems alone. I figure I’m doing a fine job smoothing everything out, and then the weight of fighting my battles alone come crashing down on me and I have a good cry (typically during that cry I am reminded of what I forgot to do) – I forgot to tell God my problems and ask for help.
Learn from my experience and go straight to asking God for help. It’s much easier than burning out and then asking for help.